Anniversaries: She said | universally speaking

In exclusive relationships, from long term to long distance, there?s a special day for celebrating your significant other aside from Valentine?s Day. In matters of romance, some of us dread, are indifferent to or look forward to this hyped up event for varying reasons. The mark- ings on your calendar signify the day you and your significant other officially became a couple ? your anniversary.

How could you possibly dread a celebration dedicated to the person you?ve been spending weeks, months or years with? For us girls, it?s no secret sometimes we just don?t have the slightest clue what to get him.In either case, there?s a bit of excitement and wishful thinking for the girl who hopes to be treated like a princess and the guy who wants to feel like Han Solo by the end of the night. Liberal studies student Crystal Bonilla, who?s been married to her husband for more than a year, admits it can be a little nerve racking.

?If he?s the one planning some- thing, then I get a little anxious because I?m trying to figure out what I can do to surprise him,? she says. ?It?s always a lot more work to surprise a guy than a girl.? Leave it to romantic com- edies and pop songs to raise our already instilled hallmark-experi- ence expectations. Let?s be honest with ourselves ladies. It doesn?t matter how indifferent you are to mushy displays of affection, if you think ?Titanic? is the worst romantic movie of all time, or if you don?t turn up the volume at the first note of your favorite in- sert cheesy pop song. So if your boyfriend sends a dozen red roses to your work with a hand written love letter, you?d automatically feel like Allie from ?The Notebook.?

When it comes to celebrating anniversaries, from my obser- vations, there are four types of lovebirds: the weekly, monthly, halftime and yearly couples. To happily married couples, it?s a day to look forward to. ?It?s like a birthday,? Bonilla says. ?You celebrate it with your significant other and do something nice to symbolize another year spent together.? Bonilla prefers to celebrate her anniversary at the half year point. ?I like half marks because it just sounds more impor- tant versus the 2nd month or 7th month,? she explains.

?I don?t see the point,? SDSU media studies student Jennifer Romero says. She thinks celebrating anniversaries too often is a waste of time early on in a relationship because sometimes spring flings and summer romances just don?t last. ?You celebrate a lot of things throughout the year anyways ? birthdays, Valentine?s Day and Christmas,? says Romero. She also admits that even though she?s not the affectionate type, it?s the little things that count most when celebrating an anniversary. ?I prefer celebrating yearly anniversaries and doing adventurous things like hiking or scuba diving,? Romero added. ?It should be a fun day spent acknowledging each other.?

The couples celebrating monthly anniversaries are in the getting- to-know-each-other stage and in the process of writing down a laundry list of do?s and don?ts in the relationship. At the same time, they?re emptying out their wallets for an investment, which might not reap any benefits in the long run. ?If I celebrated every month with my significant other, then I?d be broke,? Romero says.

Then there is the excessively festive couple that, for whatever reason, celebrates weekly anniver- saries. ?I?ve always thought that was lame, but I did that with my high school sweetheart.? Bonilla says. ?I see that as high school stuff, but as adults, I don?t think it?s necessary to do that.? So, how often should you celebrate an an- niversary?

For couples that aren?t serious yet, there should exist an anniver- sary time boundary that doesn?t necessarily have to be avoided, but could be wishy-washy playing if crossed. For instance, if you?re barely getting to know someone, why take the time to celebrate a relationship without reaching a serious landmark? If a relation- ship doesn?t last a year, then there shouldn?t be too much to celebrate. Preferably, I?d choose to celebrate anniversaries on a yearly basis, or perhaps at the half-year mark. If you think about it, ?you can show affection for your boyfriend any day of the year,? Romero advises.

Source: http://universallyspeakiing.blogspot.com/2012/09/anniversaries-she-said.html

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